Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s makes up 60-80 percent of all dementias, and there’s no stopping the progression nor is there yet a cure. However, if identified early, there are four FDA-approved medications (many more in clinical trials) that in most patients can mask dementia symptoms and keep them in the early independent stage longer.

For 11 years I pleaded with my “challenging” elderly father to allow a caregiver to help him with my ailing mother, but he always insisted on taking care of her himself.

Every caregiver I hired soon sighed in exasperation, “Jacqueline, I just can’t work with your father. His temper is impossible to handle, and he’s not going to accept help until he’s on his knees himself.”

When my father’s inability to continue to care for my mother nearly resulted in her death, I stepped in despite his loud protests. It was so heart-breaking as one minute he’d be my loving father, and then some trivial little thing would set him off, and he’d call me horrible names and throw me out of the house.

I took him to several doctors and even a psychiatrist, only to be flabbergasted that he could act completely normal when he needed to.

Finally I stumbled upon a thorough neurologist, specialized in dementia, who put my parents through a battery of blood, neurological, memory tests and P.E.T. scans.

After ruling out numerous reversible forms of dementia, such as a B-12 and thyroid deficiency, and evaluating their medications, he shocked me with the diagnosis of Stage 1 Alzheimer’s in both of my parents – something all their other doctors missed entirely.

What I’d been coping with was the beginning of Alzheimer’s, which starts very intermittently and appears to come and go. I didn’t understand that my father was addicted and trapped in his own deeply ingrained bad behavior of a lifetime of screaming and yelling to get his way, which was coming out intermittently in inconsistent spurts of over-the-top irrationality.

I also didn’t understand that “demented” does not mean “dumb” (a concept not widely appreciated), and he was still socially adjusted never to show his “Mr. Hyde” side to anyone outside the family. Conversely, my mother was as sweet and lovely as she’d always been.

Alzheimer’s makes up 60-80 percent of all dementias, and there’s no stopping the progression nor is there yet a cure. However, if identified early, there are four FDA-approved medications (many more in clinical trials) that in most patients can mask dementia symptoms and keep them in the early independent stage longer.

Once my parents were treated for the Alzheimer’s, as well as the often-present depression in dementia patients, and then my father’s aggression, I was able to optimize fluid and nutrition with much less resistance.

I was also able to manage the roller coaster of challenging behaviors. Instead of logic and reason, I learned to use distraction and redirection. I capitalized on their long-term memories and instead of arguing the facts, I lived in their realities of the moment.

I also learned to just go with the flow and let hurtful comments roll off. And most importantly, I was able to get my father to accept two wonderful live-in caregivers. Then with the tremendous benefit of Adult Day Health Care 5 days a week for my parents and a support group for me, everything started to fall into place.

For more information, visit ElderRage.com/Alzheimers.asp.

Jacqueline Marcell is the author of “Elder Rage” and is an international speaker on Alzheimer’s, as well as breast cancer, which she survived after caring for her parents.

(1) comment

Sharon Bisson

At older age,most of the senior people get depressed.There can be many reasons behind their depression.They need extra care and attention which they get from their family members .In addition to that one of the most popular types of elder care homes is the home health care, which is also called as elder care centre.It is vary in type and size.Usually,such centres play the role of skilled nursing homes that provide physical and occupational therapy that includes therapeutic exercises and training in daily activities such as grooming, dressing, and bathing.Hence this can be the better caring for ageing parents which make them feel more personalized and independent.


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